CREATING LASTING LOVE
When we feel a special ‘chemistry’ with someone
we may be tempted to believe that we’ve met our soul-mate and fall helplessly
in love. But this kind of uncontrollable romantic reaction is unpredictable,
and if it happens is unlikely to last.
This is why dating can provoke high anxiety and
why many romantic relationships soon struggle or fail, even if they start off
with great chemistry -- at any moment a new desire, judgment or turn of events
can cool or upset things. As wonderful as it may seem or be, romantic love
is usually based on undependable subjective reactions which make it very
chancy.
To keep love alive, romantic love needs to grow
into a higher and more stable form of love -- a more mature true love.
Mature true love doesn’t arise from subjective
chemistry as romantic love does. It’s something at a clear, calm moment of
conscious self-possession we choose: to commit, care and give unconditionally
to another person. At this level one fully accepts another -- failings and all
-- and places their well-being on a par with their own.
So if you’re seeking true and lasting love, don’t
look to accidental chemistry ... look to a higher-will capacity. That’s where the
power to produce lasting love lies. At a mature consciously willing level, two
people not only select and deliberately choose to love each other they make
that choice daily, again and again and again, continually growing their
feelings of love. Thus, while romantic
love may only be a capricious accident of human nature, true lasting love is a
deliberate ongoing creative act of mature human will.
Goodness and joy to all, Joseph.
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